About Coach De Bruyns
About Me
I’m Coach De Bruyns — South African husband, father of eleven, and the man who has lived polygyny for over twelve years while helping 400+ men build high-performance traditional families.
In a world where marriages crumble, men feel emasculated, and families drift apart, I teach a different way: unapologetic patriarchal leadership grounded in Quranic principles, masculine excellence, and practical results. No fluff. No theory. Just what actually works.
My journey began the same way many of yours will — questioning the modern script for marriage and family. I rejected it. Instead, I built a polygynous household that runs with order, peace, and purpose. That real-world experience became the foundation for my books: Polygyny Maybe? A Practical Guide to Polygyny and How to Choose and Keep a Wife, and it now powers every coaching session I deliver.Here’s what I do for the men who work with me:
- Show you exactly how to step into your role as the undisputed head of your household
- Guide you through the realities of polygyny, so you avoid the common pitfalls that destroy most attempts
- Help you attract, vet, and keep wives who genuinely submit to and thrive under your leadership
- Give you the tools to create a family culture of respect, productivity, and long-term legacy — not drama or resentment